Marriage in the 21st Century

marriage2 “Mum, I’m getting married!”  words that are music to every Christian mother’s ears. But in the 21st century has the attitude toward marriage changed…even in the church?

Times have definitely changed. In the previous generation, chaperoned meetings, group outings and short engagements of 3-6 months was how it was done. Nowadays, with the standard of living at an all-time high, couples need longer to save up not only for the wedding but the life that comes after!

It’s fair to say that the majority of young people my age, outside the church, are not taking the step of marriage these days. There are many contributing factors for this; the main one is expense. Why spend huge sums of money on one day when it could go towards a deposit for a house, luxury holidays or even the shopping trip of a lifetime? Maybe it is not fashionable any more or it’s seen as a day just to please family and friends but what is the real meaning of marriage for the modern woman?

The vows contain four promises: care, protect, honesty and time. Yes, marriage is a legal formality of the joining of assets and the lead up to the wedding can be stressful, but the sacred bond that is formed when the couple are standing at the altar, hand in hand, vowing to each other before God and their loved ones, in my opinion is a step that should not be taken lightly or overlooked.

Some girls have been planning their wedding since they were children, dressing up and daydreaming about being the princess in the fairy tales. It’s easy to get carried away with the day and forget the point of the wedding – marriage! With the media broadcasting marriages and relationships among celebrities that barely last a week it’s easy to see why young people today would think marriage is trivial.

But marriage is ordained by God and Mark 10:8-9 says “And they twain (two) shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder (separate)”. Marriage is not just the wedding day. Far from it!! The life that comes after is about compromise so two individuals can endure the bad times along with the good and live in harmony as one. And as God is love, love MUST be the foundation of a marriage for it to be a success. As Corinthians 13:8 says “charity (love) never faileth…”

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